This is from a blurb about a workshop on singlehood:
As you participate in this workshop, you will experience:
•Fresh and bold teaching to confront deep-rooted issues that prevent you from relationship


So single people have deep rooted issues that keep them from relationships.  More so than those who marry?  Hmmm, what does the 60+% divorce rate say about that?  Singles don’t have close relationships?  Marriage is the only form of such closeness??
I think we might need to work on our concept of intimacy; perhaps broaden it a little.


•Learning to love yourself so that you will allow others to love you


Singles don’t love themselves, eh?  They’re going to have a miserable time living alone if that’s the case!
Marrieds do?  How many people are wed because they can’t stand to be alone, even if that means enduring an unhappy relationship?


•Opportunities to practice sharing and being vulnerable within the safety of a small group

Hopefully, singles are already in a family or community that loves them and create safety for sharing, regardless of relationship status.
Okay, we do need to work on that one, but that’s a different article.


•Hope for an amazing marriage and preparation for that significant person the Lord has for you

Not everyone marries.  That in no way means that God plays favorites.  Singlehood and marriage are both real and valid walks of life.
To singles:  Start by building a solid, loving friendship with yourself.  You are an equal and a whole person, relationship status notwithstanding.  After that, decide what fits you.  If you want a marriage, go for it; if however, you find that you are happy single, relax and enjoy life.


To marrieds:  First, develop that same solid, loving relationship with yourself.  You can’t give what you don’t have.  Then, build a happy home with your spouse.  Know that marriage is a choice and on equal footing with singlehood.
To all:  Please stop comparing yourselves and others.  Marrieds, please refrain from characterizing singles and the quality of their lives.  Singles, show the same respect to those who marry.
The bottom line, after all, is equality, love and honor.

Published by lifehelps

I am like a rich tapestry, full of texture and color. I'm a musician, composer, poet, gardener, homemaker and friend. I worked as anLCSW for 22 years; as a socialworker for 26 years all told. Before that, I was a rehabilitation teacher. My passion is to come alongside others; to empower and bless them. That is why you will find plenty of variety in my blog. Two very important things to know about me is that I am a life-long learner - An explorer and sojourner. I also belong to the Lord Jesus...now, before you get tweeked out: I am not saying I am "religious." There is a huge difference between all of the rules and empty practice that often gets associated with Christianity and the kind of life that comes from being in a relationship with the loving God. May you find encouragement, inspiration, insight, good ideas and a laugh or two as you read my posts and comments.

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